Getting Back On The Saddle After A Family Emergency

Getting Back On The Saddle After A Family Emergency

A few days ago, my father had a heart attack. What started out as a simple routine run on the treadmill became something serious. My mom called me as it was happening in the ambulance. I sat at the dinner table emotional as my family saw me listening to my mom explaining to me what had happened. Pretty dramatic.

I took a few days to hang out with my old man as the docs did their thing, cleared an artery and installed a coronary stent. Ultimately, he'll be alright. As he was going through the recovery process, we talked mostly sports and watched the Super Bowl at the hospital.

It got me thinking. Am I spending way too much time on my business? Do I need to start thinking about family more? Is there no point to what I'm doing? I get requests from recruiters often and could take one of those senior developer jobs. I would be compensated well and I could probably be pretty happy.

Nah.

I have nothing against anyone climbing the ladder or taking a job that pays well. If that's you, that's your prerogative. Microsoft CEO Satya Nadella, whom Fortune magazine coined as one of the Top 10 Business Persons Of The Year, has been with his company since 1992. I'm sure you'll find plenty of people who are perfectly happy being where they are. There are many paths to happiness. Some people know how their story will turn out and perhaps that's how they planned it anyway. I, on the other hand, am still writing.

My mom often reminds me not to take our time together for granted. We see each other often. My parents hangout with the kids twice a week. My mom would walk them to school while my dad would pick them up afterwards. Team effort. I would them pick them up at their house, but before I take them home, we'd all get into those how-is-life discussions over dinner. I'm definitely very lucky.

What has happened to my Dad definitely puts things in perspective. Famous theologian Albert Schweitzer once said:

"Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful."

Why do anything less than what makes you happy with the time you have left on Earth?

Once I get back into the groove of things, I'm definitely back on the saddle.


Photo by Josh Withers / Unsplash

“The graveyard is the richest place on earth, because it is here that you will find all the hopes and dreams that were never fulfilled, the books that were never written, the songs that were never sung, the inventions that were never shared, the cures that were never discovered, all because someone was too afraid to take that first step, keep with the problem, or determined to carry out their dream.”
-Les Brown

Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.
-Mahatma Gandhi

About Radford Castro

I own this entire bad boy. I'm a husband, father, developer and entrepreneur. I like to make stuff.